Thursday, December 13, 2012

Thirsty: Is Every Pic a Trap?

Inspired by shai_town



I admit, even on the Internet, I’m constantly learning.  

Lately, I've been hearing a lot of talk about people (mostly males) being “thirsty” and people (mostly females) setting “thirst traps.”  Like, I’m smart enough to know that it had nothing to do with people suffering from constant dehydration.  

However, I haven’t been in too many circles where the terminology had constantly been used.  So of course, I needed to educate myself a little on this terminology; thanks Urban Dictionary:

Thirst Trap (via Urban Dictionary):  Any statement or picture used to intentionally create attention or "thirst"
Woman on Twitter: Who wants to come over and put me to sleep? (Thirst Trap)

Men on Twitter: Oh? Check Ur DMs


So I got to thinking.  On Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, even Instagram (which I’m discovering should be named Insta-Thirst) who have put up some pretty suggestive pics.  Are they being naïve for not expecting a sexual type response?  Or is the naivety really feigned and they wanted the attention?



Like if a female is posing in her bra and panties, even if it’s just her being comfortable and sending that out in a social arena, there’s only so much naivety one can fake.  Bra and panties, whether in art or a lingerie book, sends out sexual innuendo, even if she doesn't say anything sexual.

Back shot...obvious; front shot...hmmm

But what if she’s just posing in an outfit and the shirt just happens to be a v-neck and slightly low cut.  The skirt hugs her curves just right.  The Apple Bottom jeans compliments her apple bottom.  Is that really thirst?  Or just her showing off her outfit?  Yet there are guys who will respond to that with a certain level of thirst, so is it still really a thirst trap?

I admit; I guess that is why I've been a bit hesitant to post full body shots of me. 

Disclaimer:  The following statements are not to generate any type of hidden thirst; they are just statements of fact.

I am a bit on the well endowed side.  If I were to state how well endowed I am, I think that would generate some levels of thirst, followed by wanting to see.  My thighs and calves are a bit on the thick side, but then I may generate levels of leg thirst.

I’m not sure how to describe my butt.  It is not shelf like, to say the least.  But you can notice that I have a butt.  The only reason I say that is because my chest gets the majority of the attention.  Plus, the only time I even look at my butt is after I work out, just to admire that it’s gaining more firmness and tone.  Not like, “Damn, I got a phat ass!”  Yet, if I put up a picture to describe this, I could be inviting thirst.

End disclaimer.

Where does just putting up a pic end and generating thirst begins?

Like, a while back, I used to have a profile up on Tagged.  Most of the pics I put up were mainly face shots of my eyes and things of that nature.  However, there was a picture where I really liked how my legs looked in these new tights I had bought, so I made it one of the pics in my photo album.  I got a lot of likes on it—more on that one than some of my face pics.  

Then there was one where I liked the necklace I bought but it stopped just above the valley between my breasts, so I took a picture of the necklace.  Needless to say, I started getting hit up left and right by males and females.  Females admiring the necklace, like “Nice necklace.”  Guys like, “That’s not the only thing that’s nice.”

Then, I had a picture where I was experimenting with some makeup, so I was taking a pic to highlight it, and the photo cut off just above where my breasts began.  Girls digging the makeup; dudes are like, “You’re teasing me with the camera.”

I do not think I went into it, intentionally generating thirst.  However, I can understand why a couple of the pictures might have generated tiny bits of thirst.

I don’t mind compliments on my pictures, but I do practice pause with some of the sexual suggestiveness.  When guys come hard at me, giving out phone numbers and saying what they want to do to me, and all I put up is a picture of my face, then I have a problem.  Like, there was this one guy who is like, “Nice lips. I bet they would feel really nice around my ……” but he want to get frosty when I don’t respond….gtfoh!

I mean, it’s different if I had something like, “Wanna suck?” and I have my nipples on display or a wet t-shirt with said nipples completely hard.  Then, whatever sexual things guys would like to do to them would be expected, in some cases, welcomed.  I do get confused with these females that do that and then get mad.

For me, I think there are some things that should be reserved for someone I’m trying to build with.  Like, why would a guy get with me if I've shown my treasures all willy nilly to other guys?  

Sure, there are guys who will always like and comment on very raunchy pictures, but think about it like this: If you’re trying to be the one for the long term, then you can’t indulge in the short term.  

There are plenty of females out there willing to showcase big titties, thick thighs, and phat asses, but he doesn't want any other guy getting worked up over a woman he’s trying to be serious with.  You can’t clamor for respect when you’re engaging in obviously thirsty worthy shit.

People won’t be seeing me putting any parts of the choca on front street.  Nor the “bend ova” pose, trying to showcase my ass.  No setting the tits out either.  Not on a grand stage for all of Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, or Instagram, etc. to see.  I've got to save something to leave to the imagination.  Something for that special person to see.

Now for that special person, well, he can act as thirsty as he wants to be, for with that person, it will definitely be intentional.  

Peace.

1 comment:

Reggie said...

I like to think of myself as non-thirsty.